I don’t know how to stress that enough,  us as people need to put ourselves as well as our children’s heads in these books and educate ourselves because you can not depend on this fucked up ass school system I’m telling you.  But reading is not only for educational purposes, there are plenty of books out here that are great for entertainment I did a video reviewing a few books so check it out below and leave a comment when you get there. Dont forget to comment and subscribe until next time. -Poetic Rymes

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ddq28DK93GQ

Hey everyone this is my first blog on here!!!!!!! lol I just wanted to stop by real quick and talk to yall about something.  Now with more and more people on the computer these days there are a few things you NEED to know.  I did a video about this and I will post it below, After I finished the video and saw the comments I was getting from people I realized that there are alot more things I could talk about that subject. So I decided to do a Part II that will be coming out soon until then watch this one and let me know what you think. Poetic Rymes I’m out

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=fxWK9Wr_9Sg

I was sitting here being reminded of how music can heal. It can ease hard times, enhance good times. Whenever I am feeling on the lower side of things I can always turn to music to change my mood and lift my spirit. I like soulful music. I am a Bone Thugs n Harmony fan forever and the reason I love their music is beacuse of the soul samples they use and the combination of singing and rap…kinda like RRand B or rap-rhythm and blues. I am no woman, but I love some Mary J. Blige because of how she puts her emotion in song. It comes off so real, it connects to the pain of many. When you combine that with musical instruments that pluck at your nerves ( piano, electric guitar, bass guitar, drums, assorted percussion instruments), you have a hit everytime! Give me some Tupac to lyrically tell my story without knowing anything about me! Thats what I’m talking about! So complex he was, the world was not ready for his mind… I like to feel the music…prolly comes from my upbringing and the kind of music my elders listened to. When I need a hug and can’t get it, music promises to engulf me everytime.

This has been a message from Murff, advocate for great music.

There was a woman on the net that sent CEO a note asking him where the good Black men are these days, and he replied to here question.  And here Chi (his significant other) will post her $2 worth.

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Her:  “You (CEO) had sent me a note about men and your relationship.  And I guess I have a few questions.  I have a close net group of female friends and our experiences are so similar. For those that select to be in relationships.  The men are almost useless.  But the women justify them in order not to be alone. The rest of us find that the only thing Black men are seeking now is sex.  You could be in a great conversation. Then talk about going out.  And you get a stupid text with a picture or a description of what they want to do. I grew up about great men.  And I am not finding anything close. Where would you say that good men are?  Cuz I am just not seeing them.”

CEO says:  I can honestly say that a good man is a Brotha that’s focused on making his life better for himself and his family.  Sometimes, that focus when he’s single tends to have them shut out women for a while, or be very choosy about the ones they decide to talk to.  Other times, they get caught up in the same vicious cycle that Sistas get caught up in and, after being burned by the ultra-controlling or the gold-digging sect of sisterhood, shut down to either Sistas in general or women all together for a while. The ones that I know are all married now and happy with their wives.  As for myself, I met my girl through conversation about books and poetry on a message board and it grew from there.  She has inspired me to do better for myself and I have done likewise for her.  Before her, I admit to having some one-night stands as well as a couple of relationships that didn’t work for one reason or another.  But, thanks to a firm grounding in God and realizing the “dog” way of living was not the way to live, I wised up and made the choice to cherish the real woman that made herself known to me.  Sadly, a lot of guys out there are still thinking with the “get notches on the belt/body count” mentality, not seeing the women they’re with in the fullness of their glory.  Where to find them?  The key is to not look intentionally, but just keep your eyes open.  Whether it be at work, on the net or just on the street, the real brothers that see you for more than p*ssy will step [to you] after taking in the whole of you externally, and try to get to know the whole of you internally as well, sharing of himself in the process.

Chi says:  How old are you?  I ask because we have to now realize that males (in general!!!) in their teens and now their whole twenties (and some in their 30’s) are still trying to find themselves, much less know how to go about gaining and then building, then keeping a long lasting relationship, IF they even want one. Including women  (in general!!!) in the Millenium. Thought I’d throw that out there too.  Now back on topic,  either they don’t want it, not ready, working on self-improvement or haven’t found a woman that makes them want to be in a relationship or simply they have been burnt by love and take it out on the next woman thereafter.  There are many reasons as to why a man of this group may not be eager to show you his ‘good side’.  But the key is to move on and not look at those men as the majority but as the exception to the rule.   How are you considering (not choosing) these men?   I say considering because they should be coming to you…and with some sense.  Like a respectable man to a woman.  If not, you are to yell, “NEXT”!!  Do you have any type of criteria of standard besides their looks as the basis for your selection?  i.e., what type of men do you like?  Are they the relationship type?   Do you harbor any stereotypical beliefs such as nice guy vs. bad boy?   Do you hold yourself up to your own criteria of standard?  Are you putting too much emphasis on what’s in front of you, instead looking past and checking out the rest of the room for who may be overshadowed in the background?   Is this man’s stage of his life in a state of guess -work?   Did you scope them out long enough to collect data to know?   Is your life in a state of guess-work?   Are YOU relationship material or just dating/booty call material?  Are you willing to WAIT for quality to come your way?  Are you pre-occupied about being with a man for the title of girlfriend, friend approval, or fear stereotypes of society (spinster, are you gay, you are ‘missing’ out when its just headaches as you describe above)?  Could it be that you are trying to force a connection?  Desperation leads to disaster.  Do you know yourself enough to know what you want in a man AND what it takes to be in a relationship?  Sometimes we attract the type of chaos that exists in our lives in our prospective dates/mates.  As soon as you work on yourself for the better, forget and quit stressing on the lack of stable mentality of these men –that just may be ‘soooo fine’, ‘well-hung’, ‘all the women want him’, has a ‘dangerous or mysterious aura’, ‘I can save/tame him’ factors (They are only distractions to the real deal), a door will open to a whole new room exposing numerous quality men looking or waiting for a quality relationship with a quality woman.  Hey, just to put this on out there, SOME of these great men have been these unstable men once upon a time, but grew up over the years and moved on into the next room…Also, you never know, those good men you grew up around and know may have come a long way from giving women a reason to complain back in their day.  Bottom line:  Brush it off and focus on you.  It’s all about the timing;  the way, how, and where he finds you doesn’t matter.  But where he is mentally does.  You meet a man that’s still wylin’, keep it moving or if you see that spark in him, tell him to call you when he decides he wants a great deal more for himself AND makes those necessary changes, if you aren’t already taken by then provided that you have done the same.

~Your thoughts?

I am not sure if any of you have heard the phrase “Don’t shoot the Messenger” well I can understand this in a case  of the messenger giving needed information like “it is going to rain bring an umbrella” or even a “middle man” supervisor { my job:(  } bringing a memo that has been revised 3 times to you again. (even if it is meaningless someone has to do it)

 But what about the messenger that just enjoys bringing you bad news or gossip? I have someone at work who loves telling me negative things people say about me On top of gossiping about everyone else. I hate that! At first I thought she was looking out for me, but now I don’t even believe everything she says. I don’t know how to bring to her attention that I just don’t want to hear it because I am seriously starting to resent her…. Grrrrrr I know the saying goes don’t shoot the messenger but dang if I don’t have the urge to slap her around a bit.

Does anyone  have or had someone in there life like this?  How do or did you deal with it? I am seriously annoyed and unsure how to approach the situation.

So earlier this past week I went to Subway for dinner/lunch at work. I got a footlong roast beef with southwest sauce, pickles, cheese, lettuce, oil, vinegar, oregano, and hot peppers. Great sandwich! Ok so the next afternoon I feel my stomach warning me that I need to take a dump. I went to the bathroom and sat on the toilet and started relaxing and letting everything come out. All of a sudden I get this weird sensation…I started squirming and making ugly faces because the hot peppers were tearing my ass up! That shniit was HOT! My ass was burning! I couldn’t wait to grab the tissue and wipe my ass. I’m telling ya’ll I never had hot shniit like that. So I finished (skipping more details), got up, pulled my pants up, and tried to walk and OMFG the fire was still blazing in my rectum! Now I’m walking like I just had a colonoscopy or someone just stuck their fist and forearm up my ass lol I wont even get started on when I tried to sit down…I’m easing down like I was 8 months pregnant lol. Whewwww! I wanted to take one of those teething rings and sit on it for awhile, stick an ice cube up my ass or something. Ya’ll don’t feel me, that shniit was HOT! lol  Now I wanna know who out there can testify to what I’m talking about? There is no way yall can leave me hanging on this one.

Why is a relationship important to you? What do you wish to gain from having a connection with someone? So many times people disesteem the relationship they are in, so I wanted to know why is it special to you?

Where do you see yourself in about 5 years? I revise my list almost everyday, but I am certain that I want to be comfortable in a house or apartment of my own. I miss that kind of freedom. I guess I will never have the freedom I desire, because of my daughter. It’s okay to dream I keep telling myself. Anyway other than that. I plan to have my BS in Biology by this December, but no later the Spring 2009. I should be married by then as well and living in Baton Rouge.

I was in the Target parking lot with my sister and niece the other day and I told my niece, “ There’s your aunt right there.” in reference to a woman that caught my eye. So we are in the store doing our shopping thing and the woman came down the aisle I was at the end of. Then my niece says, “There she go Anthony…that’s her right there!” Now keep in mind that the woman was right in my nieces face, so she immediately wondered what was up. The woman then said, “Me? You talking about me?” I look up like “Oh damn!” all embarrassed and stuff. Lol  Here I go, “ Yeah…I saw you in the parking lot and thought you were very beautiful that’s all.” She smiled and said, “ Oh, thanks” and kept going. Then I gave my niece “ the look”  and she couldn’t understand what she did wrong. I guess she thought she was looking out for me, but she was WRONG! Let me tell you why I don’t just approach every woman that appeals to my eye… Yes the woman may be fine as hell but I need more info!

    We are still shopping and the woman turns out to be with what looks like her mother and her son. So I immediately come to a screeching halt at the red light. lol Then I notice that, well it seems like the woman is following us, or we are following them, or maybe we were just doing what all the customers in Target do, and that’s shop. Lol She was everywhere, every time I looked up she was there. Then she got on the phone and a whole new person came out. She was talking the most improper English ß– being nice-à I ever heard and then she started talking crazy( like 2 years old) to her son because he was interrupting her phone conversation. She was loud and yelling and I was waiting for her to start cursing her son out, but she didn’t. And the last straw was her wearing those ballet shoes that I hate! You knkow , those flat shoes that all the women are wearing. I could not see myself being with a woman like this EVER!

Wait a minute…

     Hmmm now look at this…I sound so superficial. I know I am but damn Murff…you trippin on some shoes? I had a talk with a friend about this and it got me thinking about it after she pointed it out. The smallest things can turn me off about a woman, but I am hurting myself by being so shallow. Wow, I can’t believe I just typed that. lol I’m impressed with myself  right now. So lets see if I can actually apply this dicovery to the next woman I encounter.

Ok Shirley Ceasar and Tonex have a song called “I Know The Truth”, please listen to the song so you’ll know what exactly what I mean before you continue reading this blog…….

Ok, now did u listen to the words? Did you listen to everything that was said? First let me start off my saying I love Shirley Ceasar but hearing this song made me really think, are christian artisit are you they say they are or are they just trying to sell cds and make money? Shirley starts off powerful saying the devil is trying to bring her down and everything ok that’s a wonderful start, I love the beginning it’s just the end that caught me off guard. Before this song was made many artist and people were talking about how these two, saying how their spirits isn’t right, and I personal disagreed until I heard the song. I’m so disappointed in Shirley for even letting Tonex rap on her song even saying things like that. Tonex calls out Hezekiah Walker and away, what does he mean he can handle hezekiah?, wow!!! He is basically talking about people that are hating on him and no matter what the more they hate the more he sales cds, but um….what does that have to do with glorifling God, isn’t that suppose to be the whole point of the song, or am I going nuts, because the things he raps about at the end, it’s not suppose to be about how many albums he sales, more as how many souls he touch, reach, how many lifes he changes with his songs as well as hers, and then he ends with see you at the grammys, WHAT??? Please tell me what yall think cause this is crazy!!

 What are your thoughts????